I did something I have never done before–today! I bought a ticket to a women’s personal growth conference, called RISE with Rachel Hollis, author of Girl,Wash Your Face. One of my oldest and dearest girlfriends is going with me, and we are turning it into a girls’ road-trip from Iowa to Dallas—singing to our favorite 80s playlist, laughing until we pee our pants, and awesome conversations to be had—so excited!
I actually read Girl, Wash Your Face after I saw several friends posting about it on fb a few months ago, and I am so glad I did! It is the first self-help book I’ve read that I was able to have a true mindset shift (and I have read too many to count because I am a self-improvement junkie). For the first time in about 25 years, I started thinking about investing in myself, my goals, and my dreams! I’ve been following Rachel Hollis on fb and IG since I finished the book, and every single day, I get a little nugget that reinforces a sense of self-worth and self-confidence to go after what I want and to make the choices needed to reach my goals. The mindset shift that happened after reading the book and hopping on the Hollis train has helped lift me out of a deep depression and the grief from losing someone dear to my heart, my grandma–literally one of my favorite people on the planet since the day I was born.
For the first time in my life, I actually believe I will really achieve my personal and career goals. My husband has even noted the change and is 100% supportive of this because he has seen how positively it’s affected me. He even went with me to see a documentary film called Made for More (by Rachel Hollis) so I did not have to go alone. He was the only man in the theater and some of the women were giving him props for being there. It meant the world to me that he did that! The best part was that he was able to see why this phenome that is Rachel Hollis has inspired me to be better, do better, believe in myself, and feel like I am worthy of success—that I was “made for more”!
I also invested in monthly coaching with Rachel. I, along with 500 other ladies, had the first session in January, and I cannot wait for the February session. We have a fb group for those of us in coaching and it is the most supportive community of women I have ever been a part of. No cattiness, no comparison, just women lifting each other up in whatever goals we have: being debt free, being a better mom, coping with midlife, changing careers, starting a business, starting over after divorce, losing weight, getting healthy, or just simply feeling better about who we are. It’s another tool to keep me going toward what I want my life to look like at this stage of empty nest/midlife.
When my kids moved out, I thought I was prepared. I was so proud of and happy for my kids, and I was prepared to cheer them on as they started their journeys independent of me. What I wasn’t prepared for was the grief and depression that would come in closing that chapter in my life–a beautiful, fun, amazing, 25 year chapter that I loved so much. Finally, I feel excited about the future again and have dreams beyond raising my family, personal dreams and goals that I have always kind of thought were pipedreams and had set aside until now. Don’t get me wrong, this journey is going to be hard and challenging.
One of the goals I am working towards is weight loss. I have been on the yo-yo train since I gained the baby weight 25 years ago—100lbs—my baby only weighed 8lbs. 12 oz., so there was a lot more than just baby weight-HA! Having also dealt with depression off and on for 30 years, it’s been a struggle to maintain any success I have had (food has been a coping mechanism for me). I am ready to free myself of the body shaming and body hate “*Darci” has put on me for all these years. This is a journey I also want to share with other women that may be trying to drop the weight realistically, without starving to death, punishing themselves, or carrying guilt or shame because of the weight. My journey to weight loss is going to be one of self-love, something very different from other approaches I’ve tried. More to come on that topic!
I realize not everybody is ready to drop $$$ on personal growth, and you don’t have to. I have shelves of books that I’ve read over the years. But for starters, I recommend picking up a copy of Girl, Wash Your Face or get it on Audible and listen to it if you are not a reader. You can also find tons of free personal growth resources on the internet or in podcasts. A couple of my favorite podcasts are RISE, by Rachel Hollis, RISE Together, Rachel and Dave Hollis, The Sheri and Nancy Show, Better Than Happy by Jody Moore, Magic Lessons by Elizabeth Gilbert, and For the Love by Jen Hatmaker—all are free! I will be sharing more resources in future posts!
I already know there are those that will say that I drank the Kool-Aid. You know what I say, “F-them!”
Do something to treat yourself kindly today-
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*Darci is my evil, hateful, negative alter ego voice in my head (not like voices, but just the name I’ve given to the shadow side of myself)